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Aug. 28th, 2006 10:54 amWhatever happened to the simple concept of politeness? It's something that I've seen deteriorate over the past several years overall. I mean sure, there have always been rude people around. But they seem to be more the rule than exception now.
Part of what brings this up is that the new season for many shows is about to start. The dreaded 'Can you please put that behind a cut?' battlecry is about to be heard. It's already started when someone posted on![[community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png)
lawandordersvu about last night's emmy results before they'd aired here on the West Coast. Here. After being asked a few times to put it behind a cut, their response was essentially, it happened so why put it behind a cut? Ummm...The point was that it hadn't aired in all the time zones yet. Essentially what they were saying was, "As long as I've already seen it, screw what the rest of you want."
There was also the gem of "Well, if you didn't want to know you shouldn't have looked at the comm!" Okay, this was the same argument used by some when they posted about Kate's death on NCIS on various LJ comms a year and a half ago. Do other people not read LJ the same way I do? Because, I skim my flist to see who/what I'd like to read at the time (which, of course includes all of you) and if there's something that looks like a spoiler on a comm, I'd like to be able to make the choice of whether to pass it by or not.
Again, this all comes down to common courtesy. I just don't get why some folks get so offended by being asked to do the polite thing. Of course, politeness goes both ways. In the asking and the responding. If the request starts of with "Hey dumbass!" then the results might not be what the requestor was looking for.
(As a side-note to this...Yes, I believe some can get a little shall we say, intense when it comes to what is considered a spoiler, but if you're going to announce that a character died, then yes. I don't personally believe that someone's haircut or grooming status warrants a spoiler-cut, but if someone specifically asked me politely to cut it, then I probably would.)
This also stems out of last week's SGA kerfuffle. Are you required to ask someone permission to play in their universe? Technically, no since everyone is dancing on that fine line anyway. However, given that we're part of an overall community the polite thing would be to ask. Especially since in most cases you would be playing in the sandbox (yes, I'm mixing metaphors) because there was something about that person's work that struck your fancy. I would think that if you appreciated that author's work you'd want to show your appreciation. Not potentially piss them off.
There's also a whole other topic involved here with how story labelling is done, but I'll leave that alone for now.
In conclusion...Politeness. It's a good thing.
Part of what brings this up is that the new season for many shows is about to start. The dreaded 'Can you please put that behind a cut?' battlecry is about to be heard. It's already started when someone posted on
lawandordersvu about last night's emmy results before they'd aired here on the West Coast. Here. After being asked a few times to put it behind a cut, their response was essentially, it happened so why put it behind a cut? Ummm...The point was that it hadn't aired in all the time zones yet. Essentially what they were saying was, "As long as I've already seen it, screw what the rest of you want."There was also the gem of "Well, if you didn't want to know you shouldn't have looked at the comm!" Okay, this was the same argument used by some when they posted about Kate's death on NCIS on various LJ comms a year and a half ago. Do other people not read LJ the same way I do? Because, I skim my flist to see who/what I'd like to read at the time (which, of course includes all of you) and if there's something that looks like a spoiler on a comm, I'd like to be able to make the choice of whether to pass it by or not.
Again, this all comes down to common courtesy. I just don't get why some folks get so offended by being asked to do the polite thing. Of course, politeness goes both ways. In the asking and the responding. If the request starts of with "Hey dumbass!" then the results might not be what the requestor was looking for.
(As a side-note to this...Yes, I believe some can get a little shall we say, intense when it comes to what is considered a spoiler, but if you're going to announce that a character died, then yes. I don't personally believe that someone's haircut or grooming status warrants a spoiler-cut, but if someone specifically asked me politely to cut it, then I probably would.)
This also stems out of last week's SGA kerfuffle. Are you required to ask someone permission to play in their universe? Technically, no since everyone is dancing on that fine line anyway. However, given that we're part of an overall community the polite thing would be to ask. Especially since in most cases you would be playing in the sandbox (yes, I'm mixing metaphors) because there was something about that person's work that struck your fancy. I would think that if you appreciated that author's work you'd want to show your appreciation. Not potentially piss them off.
There's also a whole other topic involved here with how story labelling is done, but I'll leave that alone for now.
In conclusion...Politeness. It's a good thing.
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