webbgirl: (Wolvie-Canadian)
Use my SPACE NAME! ([personal profile] webbgirl) wrote2008-01-09 11:00 am

Folks who push your buttons

Do you ever get the feeling that there are some folks whose sole purpose in life is to be contrary?

There's a person in one of the fandoms I lurk in who everytime I see a post by her, I cringe.  It's like the only way she feels good is by having a dissenting opinion and by sounding condescending when she's stating it.

I get that not everyone is going to agree on everything, even when the squee is strong.  I'm all in favor of folks having different likes and dislikes and feeling free to voice them even when they're not in the majority.  It's just with this person, she seems to do it on purpose.  It may just be her tone and the way things sound, but it feels like her main purpose on disliking or disagreeing with the group overall is to prove that she's 'smarter' or 'cooler' than the group.

For me the majority of exchanges involving her come off as:

Fan A: SQUEEE
Fan B: Double-SQUEE
Fan C: Squee (but to a slightly lesser degree)
Her: I don't see the Squee and a lot of people agree with me because what you're squeeing over is unworthy of the squee.  I don't see how any intelligent person could squee over it.

She's kind of making me want to do a virtual bitch-slap at this point.

Maybe I should just go take some more cough syrup.

[identity profile] rainfletcher.livejournal.com 2008-01-09 07:46 pm (UTC)(link)
Gah, every fandom just has to have at least one of those. It's not unlike the ones who avidly hate all aspects of something, but insist on sticking around in the fandom to make sure everyone knows how much they hate it.

People are weird.

Gosh, looking at the calendar, I really need to start watching all those Torchwoods I've DVRd before the new ones arrive.

[identity profile] wadjet-theperv.livejournal.com 2008-01-09 09:29 pm (UTC)(link)
Maybe I should just go take some more cough syrup.***

Nah. I'd go with the bitch slapping :o) And maybe more cough syrup too. Sometimes it's good to whine, but not all the time. If you don't like a fandom, don't stay in it FCOL.

It's not fucking rocket science.

OTOH some peeps don't feel happy unless they're complaining. Several of my relatives have been like that.

I say screw the lot of 'em ;o)

[identity profile] slb44.livejournal.com 2008-01-09 10:10 pm (UTC)(link)
Hmmmm, cough syrup or bitch-slap? Tough question.

Okay. I've thought about it. I say go for the bitch-slap. ;-)

[identity profile] monkeyfun1.livejournal.com 2008-01-10 12:04 am (UTC)(link)
Gotta tell you. I dropped one gal from my flist because I couldn't stand what she was saying about my fandom. She was always dissing the communities and people who had opinions differing from hers. And this was a smart woman.
It made me sad to drop her too. But, I'd rather have the happiness of squee than the blah, blah, blah of what is going on in the literary world. So buh bye.

[identity profile] szeretni.livejournal.com 2008-01-10 03:06 am (UTC)(link)
You know, one thing to discuss different opinions but that phrasing always makes me annoyed: I don't see how anyone could like A or B or whatever.

I wish some people could realise that the world contains of more than their OWN opinions and brains!?

[identity profile] wadjet-theperv.livejournal.com 2008-01-10 09:25 pm (UTC)(link)
Complete yayness for your icon. It rocks in ways that haven't been invented yet. May I pinch it?
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[identity profile] webbgirl.livejournal.com 2008-01-10 09:27 pm (UTC)(link)
Thanks! And you absolutely may pinch.
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[identity profile] webbgirl.livejournal.com 2008-01-10 09:27 pm (UTC)(link)
Sounds like an excellent idea!
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[identity profile] webbgirl.livejournal.com 2008-01-10 09:29 pm (UTC)(link)
I get the feeling it's a whole lot of attention whoring on this person's part. Basically if she's not the center of attention, she's going to find a way to focus it back on her.
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[identity profile] webbgirl.livejournal.com 2008-01-10 09:29 pm (UTC)(link)
You really should watch the S1 Torchwood, but know that much of it is complete and utter crack.

[identity profile] slb44.livejournal.com 2008-01-10 09:30 pm (UTC)(link)
I thought so. ;-)

You going to be at Escapade this year?
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[identity profile] webbgirl.livejournal.com 2008-01-10 09:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Sadly, no. I have too many other plans scattered throughout the year that there's no way to fit that in as well. Plus it's happening right when one of my projects should be ramping up.

I may see if I can sneak up for a day to visit folks though.

[identity profile] slb44.livejournal.com 2008-01-10 09:35 pm (UTC)(link)
Awww! *is sad*

It would be lovely to see you. Maybe we could do dinner one night?

[identity profile] wadjet-theperv.livejournal.com 2008-01-10 10:04 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, there's a few in fandom like that all right!